Q & A about Adoption with Shay White #adoptionstory
Have you considered pursuing adoption? Do you have any questions? Well, today you are in for a treat! Today, Shay White is answering some questions about her experience with adoption.
For those who are considering adoption or those who may be in the middle of the adoption process, I know you will find encouragement!
And even if you are not adopting, Jake and Shay’s testimony will serve as a reminder of our God’s faithfulness.
I have actually known Jake and Shay for quite a while. (If only I could share stories…..LOL)
We worked together at a summer missions camp called Camp Little Crossroads, back when I was in college. Shay’s parents were actually the directors of the camp and my summers working at this camp had a huge impact on my life.
It was also at this camp that I had the privilege of watching Shay and Jake’s friendship blossom into a relationship during the last summer that I worked at camp. (Once again….if only I could share stories…LOL)
As years have gone by, we have stayed in touch through social media, but I really connected with Shay when she and Jake started the adoption process. During that time (which was actually the same time Brandon and I began our adoption journey), I started following their journey on her blog.
I remember reading each and every post as they worked hard to raise their money. Following their adoption journey was fun and exciting, as I watched the Lord work in unexpected ways.
Shay and Jake’s #adoptionstory has been full of twists and turns and you can read the whole story on her blog, Creating Our Family Tree.
How did you decide to adopt or get involved with orphan care ministry?
Adoption was never a plan B for our family. My husband and I had talked about adoption while were dating and it was something we both knew at some point was going to happen.
When we decided to start growing our family, we tried to conceive naturally. After almost two years of doctor’s appointments, we were finally told nothing was going to happen without fertility help.
So we took a break from it all, and prayed a lot!
It didn’t take long before we were ready to get started on that adoption plan we had talked about so long ago.
What organization did you go through? Why did you choose that organization and what has your experience been like?
We went with Bethany Christian Services.
I remember just doing a Google search and it was one of the first ones to come up. So we just went for it and fell in love with the organization.
It has been such a wonderful experience from start, to placement and to continued support as we navigate through our adoption journey.
What have been some of the blessings?
The biggest blessing has simply been our sweet son!
We have also been blessed by being able to share our life with others and help support people going through the adoption process.
What have been some of the challenges?
Our biggest challenge is simply dealing with the fact that we currently aren’t in an open adoption with our son’s birth-mom. She decided that for now it will be semi-closed.
I prayed for our birth-mom throughout the entire adoption process; so to find out that I may never get the chance to meet her has been a challenge for me.
Thankfully, she reached out a few times and sent us some pictures. So we have a starting point with her, but for now, it’s been over a year since we last heard from her.
What is the biggest lesson you have learned?
The majority of people have no clue about the process of adoption and what it looks like going forward as the child grows. So we are learning to have patience with people and help to educate them as we go along.
How did you raise the finances required for adoption? (grants/fundraising ideas)
We started our blog and were very open from the beginning that we needed help. We also set up a Paypal account for people to donate.
We did multiple fundraisers; a huge yard sale (friends and family gave us donations of stuff to sale), photography sessions, auctions, etc.
We also applied for all the grants that we qualified for.
What advice would you give to a couple considering adoption?
Don’t be afraid to ask lots of questions. Yes, the financial end of is one of the hardest things to deal with; but there is help out there so just ask for it.
What encouragement would you give to someone in the process of adopting?
Don’t be afraid of the “waiting”.
There are so many times of waiting in the adoption process.
Enjoy this time in your lives while you wait, simply enjoy each day to the fullest.
Yes, the waiting gets annoying, but there is nothing you can do to make it go faster. It is what it is, and everyone has to go through it.
Take the waiting period to pray daily for your future adopted child and their birthparents.
What needs do you see in orphan care ministry?
There is such a great need for adoption and orphan care. It’s something that’s mentioned a lot; but most people have no clue what the process is or what it looks like.
It’s been our mission to help educate people near us; to help answer questions and simply share our life with them.
How have you seen God’s hand in your adoption story?
Our adoption is such a beautiful story of waiting on the Lord’s timing.
I can’t even begin to relist all the ways that I’ve seen God work throughout our adoption journey, but here are just a few.
- In short, we had gotten through the entire process of the home study and raising all our money. We had our profile book being looked at and found out we were pregnant with our daughter. Our first miracle baby! We took a short a break from the adoption process to get adjusted to our new life as a family of three. But once our daughter was a year old, we quickly got back into the adoption process and within less than a year we got news of our son. Our second miracle baby!
- Our son was exposed to drugs through the entire pregnancy and looking at him now you would never know what he went through. He’s a healthy little guy and full of life!
- Our prayer of being connected to our son’s birthmother was answered several months after we had been placed with our son. We finally heard from his birth-mom and got to see a photo of her.
- We see God’s hand daily as we watch our children grow and learn.
God’s hand is ALL over our adoption! There is simply no doubt about it!
Shay is a stay-at-home mom to two amazing kids, wife to one amazing husband who lets her dream big, and co-founder/owner of Restored + Repurposed.
Blog: Creating Our Family Tree
Do Your Part
As Shay said,
There is such a great need for adoption and orphan care.
Everyone can take part of God’s mission for orphans. Below you will find some ways you can help. Today’s suggestions focus on adoptive families and birth parents.
Take a moment to pray for Jake, Shay, and their son’s birth mom. Pray for all adoptive families and birth families.
- Pray for the adoptive families as they raise their children.
- Pray that the Lord will provide wisdome and discernment as they answer questions along life’s way.
- Pray for the children God has placed in their care.
- Pray for the birth parents as they continue to grieve the loss of their child.
- Pray that God will give the birth parents peace.
- Pray for open adoption relationships between adoptive families and birth parents.
- Talk to organizations and ministries that support and minister to birth parents. Find out how you can get involved.
- Lead your church is “adopting” an adoptive family. Many times, there are post adoption challenges families face that many are unaware of. See how you can love and support a family you know that has adopted.
- Help share adoption fundraisers and adoption stories on social media. Go ahead and begin advocating today, by sharing Jake and Shay’s story!
- Connect with me on instagram and Facebook and share quotes, videos, statistics, stories, and prayer requests.
Jake and Shay knew God wanted them to adopt early in their marriage. Maybe you sense God calling you to adopt, check out the following websites for more information:
More ideas for getting involved with orphan care can be found here.
If you didn’t have a chance to read Caleb and Kaila’s #adoptionstory and to learn of other ways you can get involved, you can read it here.
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