Clinging to the Father in the Wait #adoptionstory
Are you waiting for something in your life? Whether you are struggling with infertility, in the process of adopting, or if you are in the midst of some other “waiting process” in life. You will be encouraged by Kaila Edward’s #adoptionstory.
About a month ago, I was working on this series for National Adoption Month and I noticed an adoption fundraiser on Facebook for a couple, Kaila and Caleb Edwards. Seeing the word “adoption” immediately caught my eye, but there was ALSO a video (which I included at the end of this post).
Watching the video brought me to tears, as I remembered experiencing similar emotions in my personal journey with infertility. After reading more of this couple’s story, I realized we had a lot in common and I felt compelled to reach out to them about my blog series.
After sending both of them a private message on Facebook. I received a reply from Kaila which read,
“I think we know each other.”
After chatting, I came to the realization that Kaila and I actually met quite a few years ago while we were both coaching Upward cheerleading. (I believe Kaila had just finished high school when we first met, which basically makes me feel old. LOL)
Kaila has such a sweet spirit and I am super excited to share her story with you all today!
No one else could tell but I knew something was off with Caleb as he was finishing the final worship song.
It was the final night of the conference, and we were in a packed church in Fortaleza, Brazil. Caleb walked off stage and came to sit down next to me.
I asked him if everything was ok. He assured me everything was fine, that his stomach was just a little upset-maybe he had eaten too much Brazilian steak.
The speaker began to share a very personal message about the spirit of adoption and the Father heart of God.
As the speaker shared, I couldn’t help but reflect to a time when God first highlighted the idea of adoption to us.
A Call to Adopt
Adoption first caught our attention back when Caleb and I were newly engaged. We were at a national prayer gathering in Washington, D.C.
At this historic event, a man began to pray on the microphone that God would raise up the spirit of adoption in the church as an answer to the abortion crisis in America.
By praying for the ending of abortion, came the realization that there would need to be a response from God’s people to take in these babies and bring them into loving homes.
Walking away from that prayer gathering, we knew that one day we were going to adopt, but we would always say,
“We want to have our own kids first, and then we will adopt.”
One Kind Corrective Word
So there we were, 8 years later, sitting in a packed church in a foreign country.
My husband’s stomach was in knots, as the tender voice of God whispered to him,
“Caleb, how can I trust you with any of my little ones if you will not call them all your own?”
As Caleb describes it – in that moment every bit of pain and tension in his stomach completely went away and he felt an overwhelming sense of peace.
You see, we had been trying to get pregnant for almost two years at this point. With each passing month, we grew more and more tempted to despair.
But in one moment, through one kind corrective word to my husband, God restored our hope of one day having a family.
He convinced us, in that very moment, that adoption was part of His beautiful plan of redemption.Adoption is part of God’s beautiful plan of redemption. Click To Tweet
He reminded us that adoption is His idea. Jesus was raised on the earth by an adoptive father, Joseph. And we came into the family of God through “the spirit of adoption by which we cry Abba, Father”.
Two weeks later we were sitting in an adoption agency in Overland Park, Kansas, and thus began our adoption journey.
That would be only the beginning.
We wish we could say that supernatural experience with the Lord led to the immediate miracle baby, but the truth is, a year and a half later we are still waiting.
There have been four different adoption scenarios to come up, and in each one we felt certain “this is the one…this is our baby” only to find out, that for one reason or another, it wasn’t going to work out.
We have gotten our hopes up many times only to have that hope deferred.
However, we would not trade this journey for all of Solomon’s riches because of how the Lord has used both the joys and disappointments to reveal His kindness and love to us.The Lord uses both the joys and disappointments to reveal His kindness and love to us. Click To Tweet
Cling to the Father
God teaches us things in the midst of brokenness and disappointment that, quite possibly, we wouldn’t be able to learn any other way.
He has shown us that worship and hope in His goodness in the midst of disappointment is one of the rarest offerings that we can give to Him. As our loving Father, He has helped us to learn what it truly means to walk by faith and not by sight…to walk according to the Spirit and not according to the desires of the flesh.
Through this adoption, we have learned that it’s ok to feel pain and disappointment. It’s how we respond to disappointment that matters.
There is something beautiful that happens inside of us when we turn our pain into a conversation with God.
God cares about the highs and the lows, and the journey of adoption has them all.
Through this season, we have learned one life giving and vital truth: cling to the Father.
In the pains and in the joys, in the victories and in the let downs, cling to the Father.
When we cling to Him, our hope is never lost even when our longing has not been met.
Our Heavenly Father says “you can trust me, trust me in the waiting”.
There is absolute hope in the waiting. Even when we are weak and our hope feels so tiny-know He is HOPE,
He is unwavering, He keeps all of your tears in a bottle, He knows, He sees, He cares, and He will never let you down.
We will get our baby one day and oh what a joyous day that will be! But in the meantime, we will continue to cling to Him by His grace. When we receive our child he or she will be the overflow of a joy that has already been complete in our Fathers love.
If you are reading this and you or someone you know can relate to any part of our story then I want to encourage you to keep your hopes up -“Get your hopes up, lift your head up, let your faith arise”
We are Caleb and Kaila Edwards. We are just a couple of humans trying to live life obedient to Jesus. We understand weakness. We are from Rutherford County NC, but are now missionaries who live in Kansas City, MO. We love the fall, taking walks, drinking too much coffee, and helping people to love God more.
We are excited to share our story with you! Will you take a few moments to watch our video, share our video, then visit calebandkaila.com
We are excited to share our story with you! Will you take a few moments to watch our video, share our video, then visit calebandkaila.comPosted by Caleb Edwards on Saturday, November 12, 2016
Do Your Part
Orphan care is not only for those who feel called to adopt or foster. Everyone can take part of God’s mission for orphans. Here are some ways you can help waiting families.
Take a moment to pray for Caleb and Kaila, along with other waiting families.
- Pray for their spirit and heart as the waiting process can be full of ups and downs.
- Pray for them as they cling to the Father in this waiting process.
- Pray for the finances to be provided for their adoption.
- Pray for the agencies involved in working with birth parents and in matching children to adoptive families.
- Pray for the future child God will place in their care.
- Pray for the birth parents as they grieve the loss of their child.
- Pray that God will give the birth parents peace in making decisions for their child.
- Visit Caleb and Kaila’s website and donate toward their adoption. (They had no clue I was doing this!)
- Purchase an item from an adoption fundraiser.
- Consider donating to an organization, like Show Hope, that provides grants for adoptive families.
- If you own a business (Lularoe, Pampered Chef, Photography, Mary Kay, Stella and Dot, etc.), host a fundraiser for someone adopting.
- Donate a photo session to a family pursuing adoption. (Families who are adopting usually submit a photo book to the adoption agency.)
- Give an adoptive family a gift card to a company such as Shutterfly for a photo book or for adoption announcement cards.
- Plan a “Welcome Home Baby Shower” for a family who is adopting.
- If you know someone who is adopting, organize a meal train for when the baby/child get home.
- Lead your church is “adopting” and adoptive family. Surround this family in love, support and prayer along the whole journey!
- Help share adoption fundraisers and adoption stories on social media. Go ahead and begin advocating today, by sharing Kaila and Caleb’s story!
- Connect with me on instagram and Facebook and share quotes, videos, statistics, stories, and prayer requests.
As Caleb and Kaila shared, adoption is God’s beautiful plan of redemption. If you feel like God may be calling you to adopt, check out the following websites for more information:
More ideas for getting involved with orphan care can be found here.
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