Giving Others the Privilege to Pray
I remember exactly where I was sitting in our church sanctuary. I was in the middle section, on the second or third row from the front. Sitting there, preparing myself to share what the Lord had taught me on our youth trip to Nashville, a wave of emotions hit me like a ton of bricks. The service had not even started, and there I was sobbing. Shoulders shaking, face in my hands, lips quivering…SOBBING!
It must have been an alarming sight, because before I knew it, a group of sweet ladies swarmed around me. Although I am sure they must have been wondering what was wrong, they didn’t say a word. They simply allowed me to cry it out.
When I got my wits about myself, (and when I realized how embarrassing this was) I figured I owed these precious women an explanation. (…remember….I had only told one or two people from our church about the infertility and miscarriage.) When I told them we were struggling to get pregnant and that we lost our first pregnancy, I will never, ever, forget what one of the women said to me.
In her sweet, Southern accent, she said:
Well, honey, I am glad you told us….because now we know how to pray for you.
I had never thought about it that way. I didn’t want to tell people for a number of reasons. I didn’t want their pity. I didn’t want them to know I was struggling. I felt dumb since I hadn’t even had an ultrasound. The whole situation was very personal. HOWEVER…by not telling anyone, they had no way of knowing specifically how to pray for me. And let me tell you something, I needed those prayers.
And pray they did! Those women, along with others who learned about our struggle, began specifically praying that God would give us children. It was a good thing they were praying…because as this journey continued to unfold, there were days I didn’t feel like praying; days I didn’t know what else to pray; and days I doubted God was even up there listening to me. But when I wasn’t praying, there were others who were praying on my behalf.
I know you may have had people tell you, “I’ll be praying for you,” when in reality they may or may not truly be praying. But let me tell you, Brandon and I had some true prayer warriors praying for us. There are truly no words to describe the way people prayed for us.
I share all this to say,
People can’t pray for you, if they don’t know what to pray about.
Maybe you are struggling in your marriage…maybe you have a big decision to make about school or a job….maybe you are having a hard time parenting a child…maybe you are sick…maybe you are struggling with infertility…..maybe you are dealing with grief or depression… Whatever it may be, I encourage you to find a small group of people who will truly pray for you and specifically tell them how to pray for you. It will require you to let go of some pride and to be completely transparent, but I promise you, it will make ALL the difference in the world.