This day stirs up a lot of emotions and thoughts for me.
First of all, I am so thankful for the legacy and heritage of Godly women in my life. My grandmothers are both women of faith who raised Christian parents for me. And I am beyond thankful for my mom, Darlene. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without her. The foundation of faith and prayers I received from these ladies, got me through some of the hardest days of my life.
And one of those hard days used to include…
I used to dread Mother’s Day like the plague. This day was simply a reminder of what others got to enjoy while I mourned what I had lost, what I didn’t have, and what I so desperately longed for. It would bring back some painful memories for me: the loss of all my previous pregnancies and the fear of never having children.
I realize the pain this day causes for many others. Maybe…
- you are struggling with infertility;
- you put a child up for adoption
- you aborted a child
- your child died at an early age
- your mother died,
- you are a single lady waiting not only to have child, but to get married
For those women who are still in that lonely, dark valley. I know how painful today can be, and my heart aches. I cringe at some of the comments made on this day because I remember how it felt like a knife stabbing you in the heart. If that is you…know that it is OK to be sad….it is OK to be angry…..but also know there is hope. God is faithful….even when you doubt that is true….cling tight to the truth of Jeremiah 29:11.
For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (NLT)
To the birth mothers out there who have given a child up for adoption. My heart goes out to you. I think of my son’s birth mother specifically on this day. I can’t imagine what today has been like for you. I am sure you think about your child often. Letting your child go to be raised by someone else would have to be one of the hardest decisions ever. I pray that you will be comforted and that God’s peace will get through the tough days.
Today, I sit here in amazement and completely overwhelmed in knowing that God has given me THREE precious boys. It hasn’t all worked out how “I” thought it would…but, boy, I am glad it didn’t! My heart that at one time felt so shattered; now is so full, it feels like it might just explode.
Through all of this, I now have a new appreciation and understanding of motherhood. Although pregnancy and giving birth to a child is miraculous and meaningful, that isn’t what being a mother is all about.
That is why I am so thankful for the foster mothers, adoptive mothers, and mentor mamas out there!
I am especially thankful for my oldest son’s foster mom. I am so thankful that she was there when he needed someone. I am grateful for the love and care she showed to him before he became my son.
Happy Mother’s Day to all women out there! No matter what your situation is….remember that the Lord is good, and His faithful love endures forever.
Those of us who get the privilege to celebrate this day, do not take it for granted. For all of us…keep in mind…these are not our kids anyway…God is entrusting us to take care of them!
The same day that caused me to doubt God’s plan for my life…. is now an annual reminder and celebration of God’s faithfulness and His wonderful plan.
(This is an adaptation of something I posted on Facebook last year. I commented that it should have just been a blog post….so NOW it is!)